Q&A Style w/ Jamee: Social Media + SO's,

Social media lunch dates really make me smile!

As I
was enjoying my Matcha Lemonade and Bacon Melt with Jamee, I steered our
conversation to the topic of Significant Others (SO, from here on out) and
social media. I was saying (re: complaining) how after 3.5 years J has finally
hit his limit with US-ies or pics in general, even being the #InstagramHusband
is completely an annoyance too. I also mentioned how he doesn’t understand or
really empathize with how much I enjoy SM, among other various things related
to SM. To which she, “So does my Husband.”

I was
surprised for some reason, because via SM he is super supportive. Back story
note, I worked with her husband for a few summers back in college, so I
randomly know him independently from her. But we haven’t spoken in years, but
through blogging and social media, Jamee and I have become friends.
We have some very similar views on blogging in general, but I think we both thrive on authenticity. Our stuff isn’t curated and perfection, but more every day, real life kinda stuff. We’d both love to haves sponsors and get paid, but we just haven’t hit that jackpot yet. So for now, she rarely blogs and I semi-rarely blog. Our styles aren’t similar, but our overall attitude toward blogging seems to be, which is why I think we get along. 
After my revelation that maybe there are more SO’s who are “over it” I thought I’d ask her some questions and do a Q & A style post about it all.

serious, just asking semi-personal questions about incorporating SM into our
personal lives.

Before we get into the fun stuff, which SM platforms do you use for personal
A: These days, mostly IG
for personal but all of the platforms for work and consulting. 

Q: J
mocks my antics all the time, he especially likes to find a selfie and then
imitate me. Does your SO mock your SM antics?
A: He doesn’t
necessarily mock me but there may be a few eye rolls now and then. He gets my
love and might I say, dedication to SM but he also thinks its silly. His best
line is when he asks me if I have found the end of the internet! haha

I’ve dragged J to a few events, mostly food blogging and he appreciates the
free food & booze, but also thinks it super weird that I am willing to meet
people (whom I’ve never met before) for these types of events for SM. Does your
SO ever think it’s weird that you’ve used SM to make real life friends?A: No, I think I tell him too
much all the time so he gets it. Let’s be honest, my husband is very social. He
is always open to a good event and good time with people he has known for years
or only a minute. Meeting IRL friends is fun and who knows where the friendship
will go! 

Q: 3.5
years is how long it took J to take a firm stand against pictures together or
even being an #InstagramHusband. How long did it take your SO to start
rebelling against the #InstagramHusband movement?
A: I RARELY ask him to
take photos of me because it’s not his thing. I wouldn’t call Cam an
#instagramhusband  He supports my love for it but I know the boundaries!

Q: As
if trying to get a cute photo for the blog or SM isn’t self-consciously nerve
wracking enough, does (or did) your SO tease you the entire time while taking
your photo? Wait, will he even take your photo? Do you just take a selfie, so
you didn’t have to hear the teasing, like I would do sometimes?
A: Cam has taken my photo and
will If I really want a shot somewhere when its just the two of us but other
than that, I don’t ask him. 

Q: I
find it hard to really articulate why I enjoy SM, nothing I say seems to really
get my point across. How do you articulate your enjoyment, passion, and
excitement with SM to your SO or not-so-frequent-SM-users?
A: I love sharing small
snippets of my life. It’s fun to me! I love sharing products, places, deals,
etc with my followers. When I post something, I hope people know it’s legit. It
makes me happy when someone tells me they loved a product I talked about or can
relate to my crazy life in some way. Let’s be honest, isn’t that what we are
all looking for? 

Q: I
currently have 4,126 IG photos. J’s made a snarky comment (or two) about the
quantity of posts and #Overgramming. How many IG photos do you have and has
that topic ever come up between you and your SO?
A: I have 1,143. I don’t post just to post. I try to make it count and not give away my whole life. It has never been a discussion….yet! haha

Anything else that maybe I didn’t think of? A silly story or anecdote that
involves both SM and your SO?
A: I firmly believe
in being you! Post about what you know and what you love. It doesn’t matter if
you have 1,000 followers or 10,000….your followers can sense a phony! Also,
what is your goal on IG? To make money? To have fun? To collaborate with great
brands? You choose your own path and have fun! 

Thank you, Jamee! I enjoyed your answers and appreciate you being candid about social media and your boo thang! While our SO’s differ, its enjoyable to know/read/hear about other dynamics for those in like situations. Like Jamee said, “you chose your own path and have fun.” Couldn’t agree more with her and her drive to be authentic!
As I
was writing out my questions, I felt like this was taking a negative turn. It
truly isn’t meant to by any means. I think that when you enjoy your profession,
it naturally bleeds into your personal life. I’ve known since high school that
I wanted to do something within Marketing, it wasn’t necessarily social media related. To be
honest, it was probably more geared toward the creative side, more design than
anything. But as social media has revolutionized marketing, among other things. My passion have evolved as well.

comes down to me loving SM. I love sharing the things I love. J is something
that I love, but if he doesn’t want to partake anymore then I have to live with
it. Just as I know he respects my antics and profession, even if it isn’t his passion at all. I think it was just a phase, because he’s back to semi-taking USie’s with me. He still takes my pics, but I have to admit at times I’m whiny about and could probably stop that 😉 Anywho, I’m thinking it was just a temporary stance against pics AND if not, then I’ll deal!

nice to know that there are others out there who have similar conversations
(re: teasing) from their SO, but even more importantly, Jamee doesn’t care
about it as much as I don’t. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes I will take serious
offense to some teasing/mocking, but for the most part I go about my social media business and post away when I have a fun weekend, eat good food, or spend time
with family and friends.

Taking applications for a backup #InstagramHusband (kidding, kidding)…

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