• 2019,  Musings,  Relationships

    Musings: The BIG Question

    The question that everyone keeps asking me. I get it, it’s the perfunctory question that society tells us to ask someone who is recently-ish single. Akin to asking newlyweds when they are going to have children. Pls do not misconstrue this as saying this is right or what you should do, but its a societal norm — a norm we should be cognizant of and really ask ourselves if its a necessity. I know people aren’t asking for malicious reasons, they are just checking in with me. But it is awkward to answer, just as I’m sure it is a little awkward for people to ask someone else. What’s next?…

  • 2019,  Diary of a Non-Cook,  Musings

    Diary of a Non-Cook: I Don’t Like Cooking

    There, I finally said it! Don’t say I won’t be a good partner. Don’t say I won’t be a good mother. Don’t say it’ll save me money.Don’t question my womanhood. I’ve tried. A lot. Well…maybe a good amount. An amount that is enough for me. It’s just not something that brings me joy. And I will no longer apologize for it. If I don’t want to cook, I just won’t. I do feel societal pressure to feel the need to cook, especially from family, friends, and my community in general. Yes, at times it saves money. Yes, sometimes it is actually can be fun to cook. But overall, I’m just…

  • 2019,  Book Club

    Musings: Hello, Sunshine!

    I joined a REAL book club. Unlike when Mel and I tried to have a book club. I mean a two-person book club was really us enjoying a sushi dinner and talking about the book for five minutes, then just a hangout sesh. While it was a great time, I am excited to really try the whole ‘book club’ thing out. I’ve always wanted to be in one. My new-ish co-worker, JJ, invited me to her book club — kinda out of the blue. I don’t even know if she knows how much I enjoy reading. Anywho, despite my go-go personality and loving all the things, a book club leaves…

  • 2019,  Musings

    Musings: I Was Tidying Up Before It Was Cool

    Simplifying for my life, is as tidying up for Marie Kondo. I can’t truly say I was doing this before it was cool, but I can say I was using the basics of Kondo’s method without truly knowing I was. I knew the very basics about her method and I knew she had a book about it all — years ago though. It never popped into my consciousness back at the end of April last year, when I started my process. I remember hearing about touching your stuff and asking yourself if they ‘spark joy.’ I kinda laughed at it, slightly mocked it, but thought it was silly, yet interesting…

  • 2019,  Diary of a Non-Cook,  Food

    Diary of a Non-Cook: Paleo Veggie Chili, NO Beans

    Le Cruset is to the kitchen, as Lululemon is to the gym. This winter weather has me craving all the warm things, coupled with trying to make healther food choices + cooking more often. I’m honestly trying to find the joy in cooking. So when I feel the desire too, I’m going with it. No hesitations, just taking it in stride. I really wanted a chili recipe that I enjoy. It is hard to find it the way I like — sans beans. So, of course, I ran straight to Pinterest to find a recipe. Sunday’s dinner came to you via the following Pinterest search: chili, no bean, ground turkey.…

  • 2019,  Musings

    Musings: What Do Boundaries Feel Like?

    B O U N D A R I E S. Say it with me. Bound. A. Ries. When I was asked about them, of course I knew the word. But I also knew my therapist wasn’t referring to when I use a stick to draw a line in the ground, which determines what is your side and what is my side. No, she meant emotional boundaries. Personal boundaries, but not limted by physcial space. BUT space is included in this encompasing idea we were disucssing. It was as if I was learning a whole new idea, even though I already ‘thought’ I knew the idea. I had no idea. I…

  • 2019,  Career,  Musings

    Musings: One SPECtacular Year

    Workavsaries are a thing, right? If you haven’t come to notice it, I love to celebrate milestones, birthday’s, anniversaries — pretty much anything that can be celebrated. I know this tradition stems from my parents, because they too, like myself, celebrate all this stuff as well – mine, theirs, Lils, everyone’s! ‘Birthday Month’ notwithstanding of course, it created itself and continues to be strong. I won’t defend it, it just happens that way every year. Why stop it? HA HA! In 2017 I left a job where I loved my coworkers and I enjoyed what I was doing, but saw NO career growth in sight. I left that comfort and…

  • 2019,  Crafting

    Musings: Snail Mail Writing Kit for LoveBugs

    Kids have it ALL these days. They’ll never know what it was like to spend hours on a landline talking to friends, or God forbid…your secret crush. They won’t know about having to use a pay phone to call your parents to pick you up from the mall at a very specific time and location. They won’t know a world without YouTube, where you have to sit at your stereo (what’s that, even?) and hit record at the exact moment you hear your fave song start to play. Also, I guess, they could care less about running to check the mail each day. Nothing in that weird box is for…