B O U N D A R I E S.
Say it with me. Bound. A. Ries. When I was asked about them, of
No, she meant emotional boundaries. Personal boundaries, but not
I had no idea. I have a better idea, but I’m still learning…as with everything.
I stumbled upon an image with the same words on IG. It really hit home for me and I thought it might enlighten someone who wasn’t as familiar with boundaries…similar to when I once was. These are essentially good benchmarks for formulating or checking-in with your boundaries.
Boundaries can vary from physical to emotional. They can also have an additional layer of severity within them. It’s easy to say ‘healthy boundaries,’ but to understand these are a whole different beast. Overall, establishing and enforcing your boundaries are important for establishing your personal identity and maintaining your mental health.
From what I gathered with my therapist, my lack of boundaries was affecting my personal identity. I attempted to set boundaries within my relationship, but they weren’t respected. I never stood up for them, so my personal identity was threatened, thus leaving me hurt and unhappy. When the strength of your emotional and
AH-HA! This was A LOT to swallow and comprehend. Remember my idea of ‘strength’ and being a ‘strong woman.’
It’s not fun, but it’s a skill that will help me personally and professionally. Looking back at my career, I wasn’t very good at setting them for myself with my direct managers. I, again, learned a lot about myself by reflecting on my career and where I stand today.
Do you notice yourself being resentful, angry, or fully burnt out? I implore you to take a look at your boundaries, personal or professional. My guess is you’ll find deficiencies somewhere. Learn from them, grow from them. Boundaries are what help set us on the path for self-care and strong mental health. While you’re taking the time to self reflect, it may be a good time to also see if you’ve too disregarded someone else’s boundaries. Is that where the relationship conflict arose? Just an idea to think about boundaries in a full circle.
Just a gal setting and respecting boundaries in life…