2019,  Birthdays,  Milestones

Musings: 35 Things I’ve Learned at 35

Do I even have 35 things I’ve learned this year?

Before we get into it, I have to admit, I’ve been walking around assuming I’m 36 and about to turn 37. HAHA! I guess anything after 30 doesn’t really matter anymore right?! Just teasing, I don’t believe that for one second.

I’ve always been one to celebrate birthdays. I love celebrating my next trip around the sun. I’m not afraid to get older, but I am afraid of death. I look forward to a year of lessons learned, the love shared, the laughter had, and good food enjoyed. I don’t expect every year to be shiny and rosy, but I do hope for the best.

That being said, here are 35 things I’ve learned this year:

  1. Listen to your body.
  2. You can’t make anyone else happy if you aren’t happy with yourself.
  3. The actions of others have NOTHING to do with you.
  4. Your friends might not like your partner, but they probably won’t tell you.
  5. Being raised on love is very different than being raised on survival.
  6. Do the things that are hard and uncomfortable, you probably need more of that.
  7. Stop apologizing for everything.
  8. I do not have to accept sexist and racist comments from anyone.
  9. I want to be an emotional role model.
  10. I crave authenticity.
  11. When you distrust someone, you are breaking trust within yourself too — listen to your instincts.
  12. Try to be more fluid in life, which also parallels removing expectations.
  13. Accept people exactly how they are.
  14. Intimacy is ‘in-to-me-I-see.’
  15. Discernment is key for dating, especially in the beginning.
  16. Falling in love with potential will break your heart in the end.
  17. Just because you are by yourself, doesn’t mean you are lonely or alone.
  18. Honesty is the highest form of intimacy.
  19. Feelings don’t leave, they change.
  20. It’s okay to NOT be okay.
  21. Mental health is just as important as physical health.
  22. Let kindness come through in everything you do.
  23. A relationship should be a true partnership.
  24. Family can be toxic and it is okay to set boundaries with them.
  25. Make smarter and strategic purchases — no more impulses.
  26. To travel is to live.
  27. Trying to change someone is futile.
  28. It’s okay to be too much for some people.
  29. Stop labeling food as ‘bad’ or ‘good.’
  30. Portion control is truly what works for my body.
  31. A variety of workouts, lifting, running, and soccer truly makes my soul happy.
  32. Self-confidence, self-love, and self-care are healthy and not narcissistic or selfish!
  33. If God removed it, let it be.
  34. Running and I are in a relationship and I should treat it as such.
  35. My intuition is eerily good…almost, too good!

Well, that was fun. Once I got started, I didn’t want to stop. Lucky for you I had a max 😉

As I approach 36, I feel like I’m coming into this age with a fresh perspective. I learned a lot about myself, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually during this trip around the sun. Maybe more than any other trip around the sun, to date. I have more to learn and improve upon, but I love the woman I am and am becoming.

Birthday Month is a thing and you cannot stop it! HAHA


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