• 2019,  Diary of a Non-Cook,  Musings

    Diary of a Non-Cook: I Don’t Like Cooking

    There, I finally said it! Don’t say I won’t be a good partner. Don’t say I won’t be a good mother. Don’t say it’ll save me money.Don’t question my womanhood. I’ve tried. A lot. Well…maybe a good amount. An amount that is enough for me. It’s just not something that brings me joy. And I will no longer apologize for it. If I don’t want to cook, I just won’t. I do feel societal pressure to feel the need to cook, especially from family, friends, and my community in general. Yes, at times it saves money. Yes, sometimes it is actually can be fun to cook. But overall, I’m just…

  • 2019,  Musings

    Musings: I Was Tidying Up Before It Was Cool

    Simplifying for my life, is as tidying up for Marie Kondo. I can’t truly say I was doing this before it was cool, but I can say I was using the basics of Kondo’s method without truly knowing I was. I knew the very basics about her method and I knew she had a book about it all — years ago though. It never popped into my consciousness back at the end of April last year, when I started my process. I remember hearing about touching your stuff and asking yourself if they ‘spark joy.’ I kinda laughed at it, slightly mocked it, but thought it was silly, yet interesting…

  • 2019,  Musings

    Musings: What Do Boundaries Feel Like?

    B O U N D A R I E S. Say it with me. Bound. A. Ries. When I was asked about them, of course I knew the word. But I also knew my therapist wasn’t referring to when I use a stick to draw a line in the ground, which determines what is your side and what is my side. No, she meant emotional boundaries. Personal boundaries, but not limted by physcial space. BUT space is included in this encompasing idea we were disucssing. It was as if I was learning a whole new idea, even though I already ‘thought’ I knew the idea. I had no idea. I…

  • 2019,  Career,  Musings

    Musings: One SPECtacular Year

    Workavsaries are a thing, right? If you haven’t come to notice it, I love to celebrate milestones, birthday’s, anniversaries — pretty much anything that can be celebrated. I know this tradition stems from my parents, because they too, like myself, celebrate all this stuff as well – mine, theirs, Lils, everyone’s! ‘Birthday Month’ notwithstanding of course, it created itself and continues to be strong. I won’t defend it, it just happens that way every year. Why stop it? HA HA! In 2017 I left a job where I loved my coworkers and I enjoyed what I was doing, but saw NO career growth in sight. I left that comfort and…

  • 2018,  Friends,  Health,  Musings,  Relationships,  Running,  Travel,  Wellness

    Musings: 2018, A Year Of…E V E R Y T H I N G

    Addio, 2018! I’m sure you assume the first thing I will say was wow what an awful year I’ve had. But you’re wrong! While some of the things that have happened felt awful, they were really blessings in disguises. Some, not all. But this year has also been filled with some of the BEST moments, memories, and adventures I’ve ever had. It has been a year of very polarizing emotions and events, but I’m leaving 2018 as a happier and healthier woman! Honesty – You chose to tell the truth, to be honest. It is a conscious decision. Whether it is a white lie or an omission, you make the…

  • 2018,  Christmas,  Food,  Holidays,  Musings

    Musings: My Claim to Fame

    I’m like, kinda Insta-famous… Totally kidding. However, this day in age, when a brand reposts, or even comments on your social, it tends to mean something to some. Some people could give a rats ass about this stuff. I can appreciate that. Then you have those, like myself, who enjoy the sentiment from a brand. This could be becuase this is also my line of work. Or part narcassim, or part (social media) culture. Anywho, I staged a fun pizza pic after the madness of our December Girls Night had died down. There was a plethora of chaotic kid-ness going on and I patiently waited to take my staged photo…

  • 2018,  Family,  Instagram,  Italy,  Musings,  Social Media,  Travel

    Musings: 30 Days of Italy

    The perfect social diary of my time in Italy. Really, it was also my way of sharing my gratitude for my Italian travels. As if my posting while in Italy wasn’t enough, I decided to share a new Italy post per day for the entire month of November. Not even worried about overgramming, cause I’m so thankful for the experience and trip. It was also a way for me to openly journal my thoughts about and during my trip. I had every intention of journaling every day I was there, but by the end of our busy days, the last thing I wanted to do was journal. Most nights I’d scroll…

  • 2018,  Christmas,  Musings

    Musings: Traditions Evolve

    I am very much a traditionalist. I love traditions. I use them as a way to honor those who have left us. But also, my type A enjoys the routine and normalcy of traditions. With a mixture of both desires, I am extremely happy living out traditions, especially during the Holidays. They definitely have evolved over the years, but they seem to be pretty consistent these days. Traditions have a special way of keeping our favorite memories alive, but their permanence can be an illusion at times too. My point in writing this is because, after the breakup, I’ve had to take a whole different approach to traditions and also change.…

  • 2018,  Instagram,  Musings,  Social Media

    Musings: I Have a SECRET Instagram Account

    No, NOT for creeping! I can do that with my regular account. HAHA! I created an account to share the raw and authentic, yet sometimes ugly, stuff on my mind in a very ANONYMOUS way. A good friend mentioned they created an account specifically for one topic in their life. I was intrigued. VERY intrigued. I asked for the handle and it was shared with me. I loved the posts because I’ve gone through a similar experience and I appreciated the posts, captions, and responses by others. It was then that it dawned on me, this would be a helpful tool for me. My therapist has taught me to ask myself the hard…

  • 2018,  California,  Food,  Musings,  Sacramento,  Sacramento

    Musings: My FIRST Best of Sacramento Party

    I love my city! I’m pretty sure you know that by now, but just in case you didn’t…I had to say it AGAIN! We have a local publication, Sacramento Magazine, that has been around forever. Poppa Bear has been a subscriber forever. I always love paging through the magazine at their house or anywhere really. This magazine releases a Best of Sac list every year and then they host an event to showcase the winners, which raises money for a specific charity. Year after year, I’ve seen all the event photos and heard about the event. I was always too cheap to buy a ticket. And sadly, was never offered…