• 2019

    Musings: International Women’s Day

    I see you. I appreciate you. I value you. Tell yourself this every damn day. Tell your daughters this. Tell your friends this. Tell your mother’s this. Tell EVERY woman in your life this. Especially, YOU men out there! This day goes beyond my lady tribe, but I can’t write this post without shouting out my love for my unbiological sisters. This last year was hard, to say the least. My lady tribe stepped in and supported and loved me when I couldn’t even ask for it. They threw me a surprise break-up party to celebrate ME, they were available for me day and night, and they empowered me to…

  • 2019,  Health,  Musings,  Travel

    Musings: Verbal Download

    I haven’t done a purging of thoughts in a while, so here I am. Buckle up and get ready for the randomness train… Food Musings – Do men think about their bodies and food as much as women? This was a question I’ve posed to a few friends. Of course, the immediate answer is no. We’ve come to the conclusion that men don’t sit idle thinking about their weight, their body, and their food intake. I’m sure it passes through their consciousness, but they don’t dwell as women do. It’s almost as if I am re-programming myself to have positive thoughts about food. Why do we call food ‘bad?’ Why…

  • 2018,  Friends,  Guest Post

    Guest Post – Grow Through What You Go Through

    Friendships grow where you water them. Well, not always, but that’s okay. I could have sworn all the guest posts were from last year, only to find out they were a lot earlier than that. 2015 to 2016 was when six amazing women authored guest blog posts for me. I thought it was time to ask another friend to give it a go! As I’ve continued my journey to heal my broken heart, I’ve watered a friendship that has been a seedling for a handful of years. It wasn’t until more recently with very different, but very large things happening in our lives respectively, we found that watering our friendship has…

  • 2018,  Family,  Friends,  Musings,  Relationships,  Wellness,  Wine

    Musings: A SURPRISE Breakup Party

    No Juan was harmed during this celebration! I feel like this type of thing only happens to Real Housewives of [insert hella different cities] or on SATC! N E V E R did I imagine my girl tribe would surprise me with a breakup party! I woke up the next day with the largest smile I’ve had in a long time and even caught myself literally laughing out loud to myself, about the antics of a wonderful evening celebrating my breakup. The group chat for the entire next day was literally giving me life and had me laughing out loud in my cubicle and at the gym! Seriously, I am…

  • 2018,  Musings,  Wellness

    Musings: Cannabis + The Red Tent

    What in the WORLD could these two things have in common? Well, they are the themes of two events I attended last week. During my process through self-exploration and growth, I have wanted to challenge myself. Challenge my perceptions, beliefs, and perceived thoughts. It has been a challenge all right! But worth it… Cannabis as I now call it, no longer weed or marijuana, has always had a stigma with it in my mind, thoughts, and perceptions. I’ve never hidden this, but I’ve always somewhat accepted and supported friends who use this plant — recreationally or medicinally. However, I did and do have my opinions about it. As its prevalence grows, in…

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    Musings: The Four Agreements

    Some friends are spirits who you need in your life… …you just didn’t know it, until something magical happens. I was lucky to met Mel many decades ago, when her son and my Lovebug met in elementary school. Over the years, our friendship has slowly blossomed. I admire her for so many reasons, but her spirituality and openness has been something that is very inspiring. Recently, she posted ‘The Four Agreements’ and I needed to be scrolling through my FB feed at that exact moment to read them. I’ve been feeling a little lost a lot lately — maybe a pre-mid life crisis, maybe just life. Her post spoke to…

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    Musings: Celebrate Life…with Some Glitter

    When your girlfriend is officially cancer free, you celebrate. You celebrate with class, which obviously means glitter! Duh! There are some rules about what determines a person to be Cancer Free, so please be cognizant of what it actually means. Kelly, our superhero, has undergone rounds of chemo, radiation, and way too many hospital visits/stays to recount. But as of the beginning of the month, she told us she no longer needed Chemo and that she did not have any cancer in her body! We all were so emotional and full of happiness for her. To say one is cancer free, I believe you have to hit the five year…

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    Musings: How do You Gratitude?

    Develop an attitude of gratitude… via …or don’t! grat·i·tude [ˈɡradəˌt(y)o͞od/ ] noun — the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. (from Google) The holiday season always brings gratitude to the surface, for me at least. I can’t speak for others. Last night, while enjoying the greasy delights of Jimboy’s Tacos, the topic came up again. As children, we both realized, we grew up with influences of showing gratitude verbally, but also through other actions such as gifting, thank you notes, or a kind act. I guess this is one of those reasons we get along so well, we gratitude the same, among a…

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    Musings: An Unpoular Opinion

    I don’t want to date my best friend. via Pinterest There I said it. I didn’t have this mindset for the many years, while I was single. Even at times during my current relationship, I’ve thought that was how it was supposed to go.  Everyone says it. — I am so in love with my Best Friend. Blah. Blah. Blah. So, I thought it about it. Do I really want to date my best friend? Do I really want to be in love with my best friend? NO. I can see how many people would consider their best friend also their significant other. But I’ve decided those two roles are…

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    Do As I Say, Not As I Do!

    Can I please catch some of that self love everyone is talking about?! via Pinterest I’m not talking about that simple type of self love. I’m talking about the all encompassing, no bull shit, self love. I have some. I use some. But I don’t have that self love where I can look at myself, directly or in a mirror and accept the body I have. I critique it. I am annoyed by it. I am embarrassed by it. I want to change it. I just don’t like it… It’s always an internal battle of me telling myself to relax and love my body, while also being so grossed out…