• 2019,  Mental Health,  Musings,  Uncategorized

    Musings: Expectations

    Everyone has them, but not everyone lives up to them. Scrolling through IG stories, I came across a story that put one of life’s biggest lessons so simple: Stop expecting YOU from people. When I read that, I was like, “THIS is what I’ve been trying to articulate for forever!” This is one of my biggest lessons I’ve learned in my 30’s. It’s taken that long for me to realize this and I am trying not to judge myself for this, but I’m just grateful I know it now. It doesn’t make it any easier when I feel let down. But it is teaching me to release expectations. Or at…

  • 2019,  Career,  Musings,  Wellness

    Musings: ENFP

    I’m going to start using Myers-Briggs to vet potential dates! I haven’t heard four letters thrown around so freely until I started at my current employer. I’ve taken the test a handful of times, on my own accord. But I’ve never had my employer be such a huge advocate for Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). They encourage us to find ours, then they go deeper and teach you to communicate and learn from other types. I enjoy professional development, probably more than most. I was really excited to sign up for this course and to solidify which four letters would be assigned to me. Little did I know, they aren’t assigned…

  • 2019,  Health,  Mental Health,  Therapy

    Musings: Let’s Talk About Therapy

    I’m just a girl who needed a therapist and decided to talk openly about it. I’m honored that people have reached out to me in regards to my experience with therapy and finding a therapist. I am not an expert and am still in the fresh stages of therapy, less than one year. But I would love to share my experience if it help others. Since I chose to be very open about my mental health post-breakup, a handful of friends and acquaintances have reached out about the details of my experience with therapy. While I believe sharing my truth is also being authentic with those around me, it has…

  • 2019,  Dallas,  Musings,  New York,  Travel

    Musings: Life is Like My AWAY Luggage

    Saying ‘you have baggage’ is way overplayed. But in all seriousness, as I was painfully sitting through my three-hour layover in Dallas waiting to get home after eight days in New York, I got to thinking. Yes, randomly thinking about life, musing to myself. Unlike my AWAY luggage, the bumps and bruises of my life are hidden behind my brown skin. If you look at my AWAY luggage, it is no longer the pristine pale pink it once was when I first received it. It has colorful scrapes, luckily no dents yet. But what those scrapes can’t tell you is it has been to Italy, Orange County, and New York.…

  • 2019,  Birthdays,  Milestones

    Musings: 35 Things I’ve Learned at 35

    Do I even have 35 things I’ve learned this year? Before we get into it, I have to admit, I’ve been walking around assuming I’m 36 and about to turn 37. HAHA! I guess anything after 30 doesn’t really matter anymore right?! Just teasing, I don’t believe that for one second. I’ve always been one to celebrate birthdays. I love celebrating my next trip around the sun. I’m not afraid to get older, but I am afraid of death. I look forward to a year of lessons learned, the love shared, the laughter had, and good food enjoyed. I don’t expect every year to be shiny and rosy, but I…

  • 2019,  Health,  Musings,  Travel

    Musings: Verbal Download

    I haven’t done a purging of thoughts in a while, so here I am. Buckle up and get ready for the randomness train… Food Musings – Do men think about their bodies and food as much as women? This was a question I’ve posed to a few friends. Of course, the immediate answer is no. We’ve come to the conclusion that men don’t sit idle thinking about their weight, their body, and their food intake. I’m sure it passes through their consciousness, but they don’t dwell as women do. It’s almost as if I am re-programming myself to have positive thoughts about food. Why do we call food ‘bad?’ Why…

  • 2019,  Chinese New Year,  Musings,  Uncategorized

    Musings: Gung Hay Fat Choy

    It’s our year, Pigs! Or boars, which ever you prefer. This half-Chinese, half-Filipino gal is wishing you and yours a wonderful and prosperous new year! I feel a need or desire to educate those who come to my space about this holiday. I’ve done it every year, for the past handful of years. So, I don’t think I’ll go into all those details. Rather, I wanted to share some of the Pig characteristics, becuase so many of my friends were born in the same year as I, thus we are all PIGS together! Do you ever read something, such as your astrolgical sign or your zodica animal, and sit there…

  • 2019,  Musings,  Running

    Musings: I’m in a Relationship

    As the sun was setting, gazing at the most beautiful views of a cotton candy colored sky, I realized something. Something so profound, everything made so much sense at that moment. The clarity was almost too much for me to wrap my brain around. But with each stride, I fell into a clearness that once seemed so unreachable and far away. Finally, my first run of the year was simply, yet lucidly unraveling the jumbled thoughts and ideas I’ve had about running for a long time. Lately, running and I have had an extremely volatile relationship. To be fair, it has been volatile since I ran the Napa marathon in…

  • 2019,  Musings,  Relationships

    Musings: The BIG Question

    The question that everyone keeps asking me. I get it, it’s the perfunctory question that society tells us to ask someone who is recently-ish single. Akin to asking newlyweds when they are going to have children. Pls do not misconstrue this as saying this is right or what you should do, but its a societal norm — a norm we should be cognizant of and really ask ourselves if its a necessity. I know people aren’t asking for malicious reasons, they are just checking in with me. But it is awkward to answer, just as I’m sure it is a little awkward for people to ask someone else. What’s next?…

  • 2019,  Diary of a Non-Cook,  Musings

    Diary of a Non-Cook: I Don’t Like Cooking

    There, I finally said it! Don’t say I won’t be a good partner. Don’t say I won’t be a good mother. Don’t say it’ll save me money.Don’t question my womanhood. I’ve tried. A lot. Well…maybe a good amount. An amount that is enough for me. It’s just not something that brings me joy. And I will no longer apologize for it. If I don’t want to cook, I just won’t. I do feel societal pressure to feel the need to cook, especially from family, friends, and my community in general. Yes, at times it saves money. Yes, sometimes it is actually can be fun to cook. But overall, I’m just…