• 2019,  Musings,  Photography

    Musings: 5 Tips To Boudoir Like a Boss Babe

    Okay, I’m not a pro… …BUT I do have some tips I would have liked to hear before I went into my session. Although Olin + Co. does a great job prepping us, I think these tips would have helped me. Before I even share my tips, I do hope you have chosen a photographer that you feel comfortable with. I even suggest you an email, call, or chat with the photographer beforehand, especially if you have any reservations. With Olin, I didn’t really need too, because I’ve been following her social for so long. I also knew she knew some intimate details from the survey I completed. I trusted…

  • 2019,  Musings

    Musings: What Do Boundaries Feel Like?

    B O U N D A R I E S. Say it with me. Bound. A. Ries. When I was asked about them, of course I knew the word. But I also knew my therapist wasn’t referring to when I use a stick to draw a line in the ground, which determines what is your side and what is my side. No, she meant emotional boundaries. Personal boundaries, but not limted by physcial space. BUT space is included in this encompasing idea we were disucssing. It was as if I was learning a whole new idea, even though I already ‘thought’ I knew the idea. I had no idea. I…

  • 2018,  Musings,  Relationships,  Wellness

    Musings: Moving On

    …and letting go. This seems to be the last and hardest part of the relationship process. Obviously with a breakup, but also with any relationship ending too. Or any situation that has posed strife or hardships. While they are independent, moving on and letting go, most times one precludes the other. Not always, but sometimes. This has, by far, been the hardest thing for me to do. I can’t control it and when I do, I only makes it harder on myself. My intuition is too good, sometimes I try to ignore it. The evening I heard Juan speaking Spanish to someone on the phone late at night, I knew. My…

  • 2018,  Musings,  Wellness

    Musings: Lash Out

    Lash out… But not in the psycho, angry at the world kinda way. Like the beautiful, lashing of your eyes! I’d been saying for a while I wanted them. I have done extensive, local research for cost and skills. This is an expensive journey to start, from the initial set to the frequency of fills. That all being said, I decided to not to go for it. Eventually, I started the process over again, trying to find a reasonable solution. I’d done three rounds of this, without following through. Mostly, because the cost seems exorbitant and I already have enough girly maintenance that’s built into my budget. I honestly couldn’t justify…

  • 2018,  Health,  Musings,  Wellness

    Musings: A Recovering Absolutist

    Black and white, all or nothing, should have or should have not… Do you ‘absolute‘ things in life? I have. I always have. It’s taken some (re: a lot) of self-reflection to understand that I am an absolutist. After doing a quick Google search about this type of thinking, it makes so much more sense why I react to certain things and situations like I do. I want to think I’m a ‘go with the flow’ type of person, but really, I’m not. I want to be and am going to work towards adopting that mentality, but it will be hard. Really effing hard. I also realized my Momma Bear…

  • 2018,  Musings,  Wellness

    Musings: Cannabis + The Red Tent

    What in the WORLD could these two things have in common? Well, they are the themes of two events I attended last week. During my process through self-exploration and growth, I have wanted to challenge myself. Challenge my perceptions, beliefs, and perceived thoughts. It has been a challenge all right! But worth it… Cannabis as I now call it, no longer weed or marijuana, has always had a stigma with it in my mind, thoughts, and perceptions. I’ve never hidden this, but I’ve always somewhat accepted and supported friends who use this plant — recreationally or medicinally. However, I did and do have my opinions about it. As its prevalence grows, in…

  • 2018,  Fitness,  Health,  Relationships,  Wellness

    Musings: Stop Calling it the Break Up Diet

    I’ve always joked about it….we all joke about it… But I need to stop. I think everyone should stop. It happened with my first break up in 2005. I lost some weight, cried some, and did not know how to handle my sadness of ending a six-year relationship with my first, young love. I chose to use partying to hide anything I was feeling, but I could because I was 300+ miles away from the culprit and most of my support system too. I was too young and probably immature to realize there might have been a mental health issue attached to the breakup. As cliche as it is, I…

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    Musings: Week Day Pampering

    Along with cinnamon rolls as appetizers, I’m petitioning for week day pampering! via Pinterest Week days are not just for work, dinner, working out, and carting kids to soccer practice. Seriously, pampering ourselves on a week day should be something we all do, men and women. I have a feeling most of us wait until the weekend to try and fit it into our schedule on top of everything else, but scheduling some personal pampering time is a must. I think at times we try not to be selfish and do this, especially if we have families. However, ‘self-care is a divine responsibility!’ And don’t confuse taking time for the…