• 2019,  Musings,  Photography

    Musings: 5 Tips To Boudoir Like a Boss Babe

    Okay, I’m not a pro… …BUT I do have some tips I would have liked to hear before I went into my session. Although Olin + Co. does a great job prepping us, I think these tips would have helped me. Before I even share my tips, I do hope you have chosen a photographer that you feel comfortable with. I even suggest you an email, call, or chat with the photographer beforehand, especially if you have any reservations. With Olin, I didn’t really need too, because I’ve been following her social for so long. I also knew she knew some intimate details from the survey I completed. I trusted…

  • 2019,  Musings

    Musings: What Do Boundaries Feel Like?

    B O U N D A R I E S. Say it with me. Bound. A. Ries. When I was asked about them, of course I knew the word. But I also knew my therapist wasn’t referring to when I use a stick to draw a line in the ground, which determines what is your side and what is my side. No, she meant emotional boundaries. Personal boundaries, but not limted by physcial space. BUT space is included in this encompasing idea we were disucssing. It was as if I was learning a whole new idea, even though I already ‘thought’ I knew the idea. I had no idea. I…

  • 2018,  Musings,  Relationships,  Wellness

    Musings: Moving On

    …and letting go. This seems to be the last and hardest part of the relationship process. Obviously with a breakup, but also with any relationship ending too. Or any situation that has posed strife or hardships. While they are independent, moving on and letting go, most times one precludes the other. Not always, but sometimes. This has, by far, been the hardest thing for me to do. I can’t control it and when I do, I only makes it harder on myself. My intuition is too good, sometimes I try to ignore it. The evening I heard Juan speaking Spanish to someone on the phone late at night, I knew. My…

  • 2018,  Musings,  Relationships

    Musings: It’s Our Breakupversary!

    Why shouldn’t one celebrate a break-up? We (kinda) celebrated (more like I did, he could have cared less) our date-aversary and our anniversary. So, hell yeah, I’m happy to have survived three full months of having my life changed with one conversation. One decision. When your break-up lands on Friday the 13th you know it’s something special 😉 Lucky me, huh? It’s okay to not be okay. It’s one thing to say it, but it’s one thing to truly believe it and FEEL it. So, here we are. A full three months since we had that fateful conversation in the early morning hours on Friday the 13th in April. That woman that sat…

  • 2018,  Fitness,  Health,  Relationships,  Wellness

    Musings: Stop Calling it the Break Up Diet

    I’ve always joked about it….we all joke about it… But I need to stop. I think everyone should stop. It happened with my first break up in 2005. I lost some weight, cried some, and did not know how to handle my sadness of ending a six-year relationship with my first, young love. I chose to use partying to hide anything I was feeling, but I could because I was 300+ miles away from the culprit and most of my support system too. I was too young and probably immature to realize there might have been a mental health issue attached to the breakup. As cliche as it is, I…

  • Musings,  Relationships

    Musings: Babble, babble, babble…

    Today, I have nothing important to say… …but I have a lot of nothing important to say. Lots of thoughts. Lots of reflection. Lots of changing parts. Lots of seeking who I want to be. Re-learning who I am. There are a few things I know for certain. At the end of each day, I want to be proud of the person I have become. I want to be unabashedly proud of how hard and how much I loved, despite the potential hurt for giving my heart and love away so freely. I want to be proud of my life. I want to be proud of the effort I showed…

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    Musings: Facial Face

    Do you make random things up? …Like I do! Facial Face is among the handful of them. It’s pretty self explanatory, it’s my face after a facial. More importantly, its a face with no makeup. Literally taken right after I left the Skin Ninja, in her parking lot! I wish I could sit here and say that I’m happily comfortable in my own non-makeup skin. But I’m not quite there. However, I am on the right path to get there. Forcing myself to take better care of my skin, mainly focusing on my face, has helped me in my journey to be comfortable in my own skin. Slowly, over the…

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    Just Trying to 'Heal the Disconnection'

    I think I’m just as much of a undercover hot mess as the next person… Which is why I think I hit a nerve when I posted Do As I Say, Not As I Do!  It seems that many of us struggle daily with wanting to love ourselves (mind, body, and soul) but also wanting to change ourselves too. I think this struggle isn’t limited to our bodies, but that is where most of our struggle is focused. As Run Far Girl posed the question: Can I accept my body and still want to change it? She is basically echoing the sentiment in my post (well, she wrote and posted…

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    I Need Your Help!

    In a very non-emergency kind of way! via Pinterest It was an odd phenomenon, almost comical, how well received my post Do As I Say, Not As I Do!, about my body image (re: issues) seemed to be with my family and friends. It is one of the most organically read posts I’ve written over the last three years. I don’t follow the stats like a true blogger (what is that even?), but I glance at them from time to time. I decided to look at this one because it garnered so many comments on the FB post. It gave me the courage and inspiration to write today’s post. Also to…

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    Do As I Say, Not As I Do!

    Can I please catch some of that self love everyone is talking about?! via Pinterest I’m not talking about that simple type of self love. I’m talking about the all encompassing, no bull shit, self love. I have some. I use some. But I don’t have that self love where I can look at myself, directly or in a mirror and accept the body I have. I critique it. I am annoyed by it. I am embarrassed by it. I want to change it. I just don’t like it… It’s always an internal battle of me telling myself to relax and love my body, while also being so grossed out…